A wise man once told me, to complete a project, you have the options of good, fast, and cheap – pick two, you can’t have all three.
This reflects a business concept called the Project Management Triangle. These three properties – Fast, Good, and Cheap – are inter-related, and it’s difficult to optimize all three – one will usually suffer.
Events that are put together quickly and are intricate and highly detailed are usually not cheap.
Events that are put together quickly and are inexpensive are usually not intricate and highly detailed.
Events that are intricate and highly detailed, and inexpensive, take a longer time.
First, think about how people got married 100 years ago. My grandmother married about 6 weeks after becoming engaged. That gave her time to make her dress and send letters to out of town family to invite them to come for the wedding. Out of town family stayed with various families in town for a few days, and there were shared family meals to visit with the out of town guests. They married at the local church, had cake (made by her family) and punch in the multi-purpose room attached to the church, and that was that. It was not always a big production with candles, chair bows and a plated and served meal that it has become in recent times. So as you think about this, remember, none of the things promoted by the “wedding industrial complex” are required to get married.
Start by focusing on what's most important to you for your event to be genuine; don't be swayed by "wedding industry" trends. That can mean doing things that will be meaningful to your family and friends, too. Talk with your fiancé and your family, make your list and prioritize it. Those items may move around as things develop. Be willing to let the things at the bottom of the list go when you’re getting to the end of your budget. This is easier if you know you’ve put your personal “most important things” in place, regardless of what wedding industry marketing tells you that you should have for the “perfect” wedding. Nobody knows what makes your perfect wedding except you, your fiancé and your family.